Patience During a Divorce…Really?

How Can I Reduce Stress and Burden During the Divorce Process? Form a Team of Support That Includes Friends, Family and Professionals

Divorce can often times be a long process. As we all know COVID has been a game changer and has affected almost every aspect of many of our lives. This is true when it comes to divorce as well. With the onset of COVID, in many states divorce cases began to slow down. This was for a myriad of reasons.

For one, people were sheltering in place and simply not going anywhere. Courts were adjusting and scrambling to achieve proper COVID precautions. However now with increasing numbers of fully vaccinated adults, people are starting to get on with their lives, and this includes going forward with a divorce they might have been keeping on hold. Courts are now faced with a backlog of cases and so unfortunately many people are finding that the divorce process is taking a little longer than previously. So, what to do? Be patient! Easier said than done, but patience can be your strongest ally in your divorce process.

Tips to Help you Through The Process

There are some tips in trying to stay patient while going through your divorce. First of all, try to keep a cool head. It is only normal to be emotional during this process, however maintaining a focused clear mind is key. If you are constantly arguing and bickering with your spouse, it will emotionally drain you and make the whole process feel longer. If your spouse wants to continue to argue, text, or yell, try to walk away from the situation.

Try not to engage, especially when children are present. You may be tempted to respond but by stepping back and letting go of that need for instant gratification will help you to move forward in a positive direction. Trying to keep emotions in check is of course difficult but letting the situation cool off can avoid making a bad situation worse. Try to focus on what you know and don’t dwell on the unknowns. Of course, in a new situation there are many unknowns.

In Time you will get the Answers, Patience Plays A Key Role

It is important to recognize that there will be some things not within your control, and also realize that there are some things you just do not have an answer for right now. Dwelling on the unknowns will make the process feel even longer. Know that in time you will get the answers. It may not be today, or tomorrow, or next week, but know that you will eventually get them. That is where patience plays a big role.

Try to focus on a plan for being the best you that you can be. Perhaps start a new hobby or pursue new activities. Keeping a journal and focusing on yourself can be very beneficial. It will help you to see where you have been and hopefully you will see personal positive growth through this process. It is normal to feel alone during a divorce. That is why it is important to build a support network. This support network can include a therapist, family, friends, and your divorce attorney.

Forming a team of support can help take off some of the stress and burden. When working with professionals, such as therapists or attorneys, remember they are working for you and want what is best for you, so be sure to listen to them. A good support team will listen to you, hear your concerns, and work with you through them. The professionals on your team should give you the resources and information you need to help you deal with the decision making process with confidence.

Our Trusted and Experienced Divorce Lawyers Are Ready To Assist You

Our experienced Dayton divorce lawyers at Holzfaster, Cecil, McKnight & Mues can assist you with your divorce or dissolution related issues. To learn more, please go to our website at www.hcmmlaw.com or call us at 937 293-2141. We can schedule an in-person conference or one by phone or Zoom. We look forward to assisting you!

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