Ho! Ho! Ho! Holiday Ramblings from the Publisher . . .

I want to wish everyone a most joyous holiday season!

hoho.jpgThis is an appropriate time to reflect upon memories of past Christmas celebrations and traditions. In our family, we were very involved with a Christmas project providing gifts for needy children for many years while our sons were growing up. As a family, we spent countless hours working at the Center. We have tried to instill upon our family the importance of sharing and helping others. It is too easy this time of year to become consumed by all the shopping, decorating, numerous errands and superficial things. Focus can be lost on real matters of consequence, such as the meaning and importance of family. Regardless of one’s religious convictions, this is an excellent time to reflect upon our core values and aspire to do what we each can to make the lives of others around us better, even if it is in some small seemingly insignificant way.

Family issues are obviously important, both personally and professionally. Much of my professional life is spent with clients discussing family and marital issues. In my conferences with clients, I often find that many have obtained bad or erroneous information from family, friends or … Read More... “Ho! Ho! Ho! Holiday Ramblings from the Publisher . . .”

What Is Parental Alienation And Parental Alienation Syndrome?

sep_pt1.jpgSubmitted by Robert L. Mues with legal research and assistance from Aaron Hill, an extern from the University of Dayton School of Law.

There are a number of different factors and circumstances that have an effect on the determination of custody in Ohio. According to O.R.C. §3109.04(F)(1), the court must consider all relevant factors when determining the best interest of the child. One of those relevant factors under Section 3109.04 (F)(1)(I) includes whether either parent has continuously and willfully denied the other parent’s right to parenting time or visitation as ordered by a court. While visitation denials may be relatively easy to prove in court, that alone doesn’t amount to parental alienation. Further, it is not uncommon for some amount of alienation to occur when parents first separate. Usually, the alienation subsides after the parents’ transition through the separation and move on with their lives. In some cases it doesn’t, and instead it continues and escalates to what has become referred to as “Parental Alienation Syndrome”. This disorder was first identified by Richard A. Gardner, a forensic psychiatrist, in the mid-1980s, and defines it as:

A disorder that arises primarily in the context of child-custody disputes. Its primary manifestation is
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Are Parents with ADHD Children at a Higher Risk for Divorce?

adhd.jpgA recent study correlating divorce rates among parents with ADHD children was recently conducted by Brian T. Wymbs and William E. Pelham, Jr., at the University of Buffalo, and published in the October, 2008, issue of the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology. The conclusions included that raising ADHD children can place a strain on any marriage. The results showed that 22.7% of couples with an ADHD child became divorced by the child’s 8th birthday, as contrasted with 12.6% in the control group whose child had not been diagnosed with ADHD. Interestingly, after the child reached the age of 8 years old, there was not a significant statistical difference in the divorce rates between couples with or without an ADHD child. For more information about the study, including the characteristics which may impact the likelihood of a divorce, click here.

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The Name Game: Shirley, Shirley bo Birley . . .

sschange.jpgDon’t forget to discuss with your Dayton divorce lawyer before the final hearing if you want to be reinstated to a former name. This is the time to accomplish the name change with ease, and typically, without any additional costs! Procedures vary from court to court whether the name change can be submitted as part of the Final Decree or by way of a separate Court Order. Either way, it is easy, and the wife has the right to decide whether she wants to keep her married surname. No, husbands, you cannot require your ex to relinquish your surname. And wives cannot pick a new surname; they can only be reinstated to a maiden or former name.

If you decide months after the divorce that you want to go back to a former name, it may be too late to have the Domestic Relations Court enter the name change for you. In that event, one would have to file a new action through the Probate Court to accomplish the name change. That Probate action would likely take several months and add filing fees and more costs.

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Part 2 -The Consequences of Domestic Violence Victims Changing Their Identity

identity.jpgSubmitted by Robert Mues with legal research and assistance from Aaron Hill, an extern from the University of Dayton School of Law.

Some cases of domestic violence in Dayton are so severe that an identity change may seem to be the only solution. At first glance, changing one’s social security number and name is an enticing proposition. However, there are a number of very serious consequences to consider before taking this drastic step.

Negative Consequences to Changing Your Identity and Social Security Number:

The effects of changing one’s identity and social security number are lasting. The victim is essentially eliminating any connection with his/her prior life and literally starting from scratch. The victim loses all professional and academic credentials, past credit history (good or bad), and loss of interaction with family and friends of the victim. This, in turn, makes it incredibly difficult to find a new career, buy a house or rent an apartment, obtain any type of insurance, or safely contact any former friends or family. Any transaction or event that requires identifying information will be inconvenient at the very least. Without job references, educational credentials, and credit history, it will be difficult to provide for oneself. Such … Read More... “Part 2 -The Consequences of Domestic Violence Victims Changing Their Identity”

The Pros and Cons Of Victims Of Domestic Violence Changing Their Identity

dvm.jpgIn recognition of October having been declared Domestic Violence Awareness Month, this post and next week’s article focus on trying to assist individuals who have faced such devestating violence.

This is the first of a two part article on this subject. While not widely known, the Social Security Administration had established a procedure in 1998 for victims of family violence to obtain a new Social Security number. The Administration states:

“Public awareness campaigns stress how important it is for victims to develop safety plans that include gathering personal papers and choosing a safe place to go. Sometimes the best way to evade an abuser and reduce the risk of further violence may be to relocate and establish a new identity. Following these changes, it also may be helpful to get a new Social Security number.

Although Social Security does not routinely assign new numbers, we will do so when evidence shows you are being harassed or abused or your life is endangered.

Applying for a new number is big decision. It may impact your ability to interact with federal and state agencies, employers and others. This is because your financial, medical, employment and other records will be under your former … Read More... “The Pros and Cons Of Victims Of Domestic Violence Changing Their Identity”

New Military Survivor Benefit Election (SBP) Procedure

benefits.jpgI hate to get too technical, but I recently learned that there has been a significant change in the manner in which the Defense and Accounting Service will allow a continuation of payments to a former spouse after the military member/retiree dies. This SBP procedure used to be simple for the attorney. Previously, all that was needed was a timely letter from the attorney to DFAS requesting the election along with a copy of the court order and decree.

Guess what? After September 27, 2008, the ONLY manner such a survivor benefit election can be accomplished is by submitting to DFAS a completed DD 2656-10 form along with a copy of the decree. If the old approach is utilized, the election will NOT be valid. Click here to see a memo from the Under Secretary of Defense dated May 30. 2008, indicating the change.

The time perimeters have not changed. If the member/retiree requests the coverage, the deadline is one year from the date of the divorce. If the former spouse requests the coverage, she must send in this DD 2656-10 form within one year of the filing of the court order terminating the marriage.

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