Some people live their lives looking at the rear-view mirror, regretting the past rather than enjoying the present or anticipating the future.
Here are the most frequently mentioned regrets I’ve heard from parents in my office:
- Spent too little time with the kids. Overwhelmed with meeting the expectations of so many people, some parents never just enjoy their children. Relax and appreciate today.
- Spent too much time with the kids. At the other extreme, overprotective parents who are consumed with their children’s lives realize they have neglected themselves, their spouse, and other important relationships. Kids are important, but don’t let them control your life.
- Treated all of the children equally. Parents of multiple children often realize too late that it makes more sense to treat each youngster according to their needs, not what was done with other siblings. Don’t try to justify your actions with your other children. You know what’s best for them, and that is all you need to say.
- Focused on silly things. What’s really important to you? Being a great parent is all about doing those things that foster a superb relationship with your child. It’s about trust, communication, and respect. When you focus