You, Us and YouTube

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youtubesm.jpgI have been practicing law now for a little over 30 years.  It is impossible to describe all the change I have seen in my practice over the years. They range from electric typewriters to voice recognition software to multi-function copiers that can print, scan and send faxes and emails; and almost everyone has a computer and is computer savvy. Ah yes, computers.  My first experience with a computer was in 1968 when students were required in my eighth grade class to take “Introduction to Computers.”  I would never have predicted then how much those large, clunky devices would change our lives forever!

Information is king.  Consumers now rely on computers and the internet much like prior generations used encyclopedias and the yellow pages.  So our law firm, whose roots trace back over 65 years, stays current with technology and maintains a website and this blog-concepts which were unfathomable even for visionary lawyers only twenty years ago.  The point of my reflecting upon the computer is to put in context our firm’s next technological leap which is about to occur – becoming a member of the YouTube … Read More... “You, Us and YouTube”

Who Needs Cupid?

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valen.jpgValentine’s Day is the start of the busy season for Dayton divorce lawyers.  Many couples wait until after the holidays and it gives them time to file their taxes “jointly” and receive a larger refund.  It also can be a reckoning day when people decide that they deserve better.

While romance abounds with cupid’s magic for some, it also can be a difficult time for many divorced individuals who don’t have a valentine to share it with.

Here are some tips from Jennifer McCarron and Eugene Kayser, licensed family therapists from Abington, Pennsylvania:

Ignore the holiday

Think about Valentine’s Day like a holiday for a religion you do not celebrate.  Simply decide you are not participating in the activities typically associated with the day.

  • Do something special for yourself.
    Go to a spa, take a walk or try any other activity that nourishes you. Kayser said, “showing love and regard for yourself can make you feel stronger”. “You need to self nurture,” he said. “You’ve lost something so you need to take the time to grieve it and take care of yourself.”
  • Go out, but not
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Mom Loses Custody For Alienating Children From Their Father For Over A Decade

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pas_can1.jpgAn Ontario, Canada, Superior Court Judge issued a thorough well-reasoned but very unusual decision on January 16, 2009, changing custody of three (3) girls, ages 15, 11 and 9, from their primary caregiving mother to the father based upon evidence of a long pattern of parental alienation.  In fact, Mother had denied Father, a vascular surgeon, any contact with the girls for about two (2) years before these proceedings.

Judge Faye McWatt not only changed custody to the father, but denied Mother any contact with the girls for at least 90 days.  The Court concluded that Mother had conducted a “consistent and overwhelming campaign for more than a decade to alienate the children from their father”.

The Court was impressed with the testimony from Dr. Barbara Fidler, an expert in the field of parental alienation.  The Court, in its decision, stated:

Dr. Fidler testified that children are more susceptible to alienation in certain age ranges. She explained that from 5 to 8 years of age, children can have shifting allegiances to parents. Once a child’s brain develops to a point where the child can hold both positive … Read More... “Mom Loses Custody For Alienating Children From Their Father For Over A Decade”

Virtual Visitation: Part 2 – Legal Aspects

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In the second part of a two part series, Attorney Robert Mues looks at the legal aspects of Virtual Visitation.

visit2.jpgOhio Revised Code Section 3109.051(A) provides, in part, that, “Whenever possible, the order or decree permitting the parenting time shall ensure the opportunity for both parents to have frequent and continuing contact with the child, unless frequent and continuing contact by either parent with the child would not be in the best interest of the child.” In 2006, a bill was introduced in the Ohio Senate to allow Juvenile or Domestic Relations Courts to grant a reasonable amount of “electronic communication” between a parent and a child so long as the electronic communication was in the child’s best interest and the equipment was readily available. In Senate Bill 341, electronic communications was defined as “communication facilitated by the use of methods of communication such as the telephone, electronic mail, instant messaging, video conferencing, or other wired or wireless technologies via the internet, or another medium of communication that allows a party who has been granted parenting time, companionship, or visitation rights to communicate with a child during … Read More... “Virtual Visitation: Part 2 – Legal Aspects”

Virtual Visitation: Part 1 – Utilizing Technology to Supplement Parenting Time

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In the first of a two part series, Attorney Robert Mues examines Virtual Visitation and the different options a divorced parent can use to communicate with their children. Part 1 – Utilizing Technology to Supplement Parenting Time.

visit1.jpgNot too long ago, divorced parents had limited communication options to stay in touch with their children.  The old rushed and often dry “phone call approach” was better than nothing but had drawbacks.  There were long distance phone charges and issues with time zones.  New communication options have improved considerably! It is much easier for you to keep in touch with your children after a divorce.  Most of these approaches require both parents to have a computer with broadband connections.  Here are some options to supplement traditional face to face parenting time:

Cell Phones: Many companies are selling cell phones designed specifically for kids which feature built in parental controls to restrict incoming and outgoing calls or text messages.  Check out firefly mobile, LG Migo from Verizon Wireless and Kajeet (), which also includes a GPS phone locator service allowing a parent to find out where the phone is at … Read More... “Virtual Visitation: Part 1 – Utilizing Technology to Supplement Parenting Time”

Feeling Guilty About Your Divorce?

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guilt.jpgNo doubt, guilt is a big issue for many people going through a divorce.  I came across an interesting article on the subject at Divorce Transitions.  The author has opined that there are two separate stages:

Shock

We tend to think of “shock” as being sudden.  But the dictionary tells us it can be “a disturbance in the equilibrium or permanence of something” or “a sudden or violent mental or emotional disturbance.”  Therapists confirm that shock need not have the suddenness of a lightning bolt.  You may have known for some time that your marriage was in trouble, but the final realization of the loss may still create a sense of shock.

Among the most common symptoms are extreme disorientation, numbness, difficulty with short-term memory, physical distress, and/or confusion.  As part of denial, the divorce-bound person may seek refuge in fantasy.  “He’s going to come in the front door this evening, and everything will be just like its always been.”  There’s comfort in the familiar. Denial provides a necessary buffer zone in which the unconscious prepares itself for the massive change ahead.

Guilt

Although both spouses … Read More... “Feeling Guilty About Your Divorce?”

The Conciliation Process In Montgomery County, Ohio

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recon.jpgOhio Revised Code (“ORC”) Sections 3117.01 through 3117.08 are the specific statutes governing the conciliation process in the State of Ohio. Black’s Law Dictionary reflects that the word “conciliation” is derived from French law wherein it was/is the formality to which intending litigants are subjected in cases brought before a Judge. The Judge convenes the parties and endeavors to reconcile them. Should the Judge not succeed, the case proceeds to trial.

In the Domestic Relations Court of Montgomery County, Galen Curry is the person who is “in charge” of the conciliation process. On Thursday, November 6, 2008, I had the opportunity to meet with Galen Curry to learn about his role in a conciliation proceeding. Ohio Revised Code Section 3117.03 provides for the appointment of one or more conciliation counselors in counties having a population over one hundred thousand according to the latest federal census.

As the conciliation counselor, Galen Curry does the following:

A.

Confers with parties involved with each conciliation proceeding and makes recommendations to the assigned conciliation judge.  (In Montgomery County, Ohio, Judge Denise Cross and Judge Judith King are the conciliation judges.)

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