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How To Forgive And Let Go After Divorce

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How can I forgive and let go after divorce? The difficult challenges of healing post-divorce

No matter how you look at it, divorce is painful. Your life (and the lives of your children) are changed forever. And for a time you must face challenge after challenge – a seemingly endless stream of them. Yet you know you must continue to move forward so you persevere and eventually ask yourself the question, “How can I forgive and let go of all the hurt?”

This question is important because it’s at the core of all the pain you’re experiencing over your divorce. It’s also one of the most difficult challenges of healing after divorce because divorce brings with it so many hurts, betrayals, and lost dreams.

So let me walk you through how I help my clients learn how to forgive and let go after divorce.

The first step is to truly understand what forgiveness is.

What is forgiveness?

Simply put, forgiveness is a conscious decision to release your feelings of resentment, hurt, anger, or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you.

What I like … Read More... “How To Forgive And Let Go After Divorce”

Growing Up a Child of Divorce

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Children of Divorce should not be taken for granted!

PUBLISHER’S NOTE:
We were fortunate to have third year University of Dayton law student Shane McDonough extern with our firm this semester. Shane worked with us on a lot of divorce cases during his externship. We discussed his parents having divorced when he was a young boy and some of the effects. This blog he wrote about his childhood is emotional and very powerful! Hopefully, his sharing it will help both divorcing parents and other children of divorce to better appreciate how divorce can impact their children’s lives. We will miss you Shane! Best of success in your legal career. Stay in touch!

Negative Actions of Divorced Parents Can Impact Children of Divorce

If there is one positive aspect of my parents’ divorce, it is that I was too young to understand what exactly was happening. I was around two and a half years old when my parents were divorced. Although I have no recollection of the divorce proceedings or the ensuing months following the proceedings, one of my first memories is a supervised visitation meeting with my … Read More... “Growing Up a Child of Divorce”

April Is National Child Abuse Prevention Month – Help Strengthen Families and Prevent Child Abuse

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Help Promote Child Abuse Prevention with these Programs and Activities

April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month. This month and throughout the year, Holzfaster, Cecil, McKnight & Mues, encourages all individuals and organizations to play a role in making the Dayton, Ohio community a better place for children and families. There are many ways that each of us can help!

We all need to help promote the social and emotional well-being of children and youth and prevent child maltreatment within families and communities. Protective factors are the strengths and resources families draw on during difficult times to shield them from life’s stresses. Research shows that when parents possess protective factors, the risk for neglect and abuse diminish and optimal outcomes for children, youth, and families are promoted. It is important that parents have the knowledge, skills, and resources they need to care for their children. Major protective factors include knowledge of parenting, knowledge of child development, parental resilience, social connections, and concrete supports.

In support of these efforts, the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Children’s Bureau, Office on Child Abuse and Neglect, together with … Read More... “April Is National Child Abuse Prevention Month – Help Strengthen Families and Prevent Child Abuse”

Tips For Texting During a Divorce

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Helpful Tips Regarding Texting with your Spouse in a Divorce

Texting has become for many of us, a fast and easy way to communicate. However, when you are going through a divorce, it is important to rethink about texting your soon to be ex. In the past, I have addressed this issue, but I think it is important to designate a blog to specifically address texting and how it can impact your separation/divorce.

Did you know that the court recognizes text messages as admissible evidence? The judge’s final decision regarding alimony, custody, distribution of debts and assets, etc. may be influenced by texts that have been presented as evidence. You must be careful what you put in either an email or a text, or it may come back to haunt you. On the same note, while it might be tempting to post a snarky comment regarding your spouse on social media, such as instagram or facebook, don’t do it. Your spouse could use these posts against you in your divorce trial.

Below are some tips regarding texting with your spouse.

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Did Your Ex-Spouse Take the Easter Baskets? Resurrection After the Crucifixion of Divorce…

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PUBLISHER’S NOTE:

I was searching through all my past blog articles looking for ones that I had written about divorced folks and the Easter holiday. I had forgotten about this one. I originally posted it on April 11, 2009. Actually, it was probably my most meaningful one. I reread it and made a few slight revisions, but my advice 14 years ago was right-on-point! Please spend some time and reflect on ways that you can move forward positively and “resurrect” your life. your family, co-workers and friends will welcome the “new you”, but most importantly, do it for yourself – you deserve it!

Feeling Paralyzed After Divorce? Let Easter be your Resurrection of Life

Holidays for those that have become divorced can be very difficult times. Easter is no exception. Have old memories of good times and happiness morphed into feelings of anger, regret and pain? We all know that Easter, in its most religious meaning, is the celebration of the resurrection of Jesus Christ. Some European countries stop the daily ringing of the church bell on Thursday in memoriam of the death of Jesus Christ… Read More... “Did Your Ex-Spouse Take the Easter Baskets? Resurrection After the Crucifixion of Divorce…”

Financial Considerations Regarding Ohio’s Postnuptial Agreement Law

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Postnuptial Agreements Can Help Protect Financial Interests in Divorce

PUBLISHERS NOTE:

Over the last 40 years I have seen the benefits that collaborating with various professionals from other fields can achieve in my divorce work. My training and experiences are that of a divorce lawyer, so I know that area of law pretty well. However, many times, creating a multidisciplinary “team approach” with therapists, counselors, financial planners, CPAs, and appraisers can make a world of difference for the client!

So, once Ohio passed the law allowing for creating postnuptial agreements, I reached out to today’s guest contributor, Alyssa Miller. She is the Managing Director of Alternative Divorce Solutions in Centerville. Alyssa and her father and business partner, Ben Feldmeyer, have an excellent reputation in the Dayton community for providing a wide range of financial services and support in divorces, estate planning and other business matters throughout Southwest Ohio.

Alyssa and Ben were very excited after we discussed the potential benefits this statute has opened up in Ohio. Alyssa shares below some thoughts from her perspective as a Certified Financial Planner, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and a Certified … Read More... “Financial Considerations Regarding Ohio’s Postnuptial Agreement Law”

Division of Household Goods in an Ohio Divorce

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Dividing household goods in a divorce…can’t decide so flip a coin?

A few minutes ago, I happened to hear that old 2006 song, “Give it Away” by George Strait. I listed to the lyrics again and thought, “Why can’t division of household goods in most divorce cases be this easy”?

Here are the lyrics that I am referring to:

She was stormin’ through the house that day
And I could tell she was leavin’
And I thought, “Aw, she’ll be back”
‘Til she turned around and pointed at the wall and said

“That picture from our honeymoon
That night in ‘Frisco Bay
Just give it away”
She said, “Give it away”

“And that big four poster king sized bed
Where so much love was made
Just give it away”
She said, “Just give it away”

Just give it away
There ain’t nothing in this house worth fightin’ over
Oh, and we’re both tired of fightin’ anyway
So just give it away
(SKIPPED A FEW VERSES)

And I said, “Now honey
Don’t you even want your half of everything?”
She said, “Give it away
Just give it away”… Read More... “Division of Household Goods in an Ohio Divorce”

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