Custody Issues: Finding a “Qualified” Therapist

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Tips On How To Select The Right Therapist In Serious Custody Cases

custodyI have been asked repeatedly what is meant by “qualified” when selecting a therapist to deal with issues related to contentious custody situations.  Too often much valuable time is wasted on counselors who have no experience dealing with the ramifications of custodial interference, parental alienating behaviors and repeated false allegations.  Too many people just look at the words “family counseling” and don’t go the extra interview step to discover what experience the counselor has in custody issues and whether the person has even been qualified to testify in court.   Often the random selection of therapists does more harm than good and the client finds himself back at square one after the therapist finally admits the situation is outside his/her abilities and expertise.

Now that DSM-5 has finally included these behaviors, the effect on the parent-child relationship and the devastating psychological effects on the children, it is extremely important to select well skilled and qualified therapists.  This means the first “list” should be comprised of those psychologists and psychiatrists who have experience with these serious custodyRead More... “Custody Issues: Finding a “Qualified” Therapist”

DOMA Ruling: The Impact of this Historic Supreme Court Decision

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How Will DOMA Affect Individuals In Other States?

DOMAIn a 5-4 decision, the Supreme Court overturned the federal 17-year-old DOMA act (Defense of Marriage Act), leaving many people wondering the effects this ruling will have on same-sex couples in their state.  Hopefully the following information might be helpful when trying to understand this major decision in the United States v. Windsor case. In order to dispel a misconception, it should be noted that this decision does not require states to recognize same-sex marriages.

The primary point to take away from this ruling is that it will ONLY affect individuals residing in the 13 states* and the District of Columbia that have legalized gay marriage.  So, in Ohio, the DOMA ruling will not have any real present substantive affect.  But it may end up becoming a step forward in legalizing gay marriage.

Now that DOMA has been overturned, legally married same-sex couples in those specific states will be granted the same federal benefits to which heterosexual married couples have been entitled.  These benefits include social security, estate tax, joint tax-returns, military benefits, health coverage, and child custody … Read More... “DOMA Ruling: The Impact of this Historic Supreme Court Decision”

Divorce – Tips on Dividing Your Stuff!

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How To Divide Your Marital Property During The Process Of Divorce

divorceA Divorce is not a single event, but a series of losses, changes and transitions. There are many watershed moments in the process of dissolving a marriage. One that seems overlooked for its emotional impact is the division of the martial property.

It is easy to say, “It’s just stuff, it can be replaced”, but the accumulation of furniture, objects and even chintzy doodads of no “real value” are keepers of the couple’s stories. As the years go on, we amass possessions that hold memories and are the tangible evidence of the milestones and celebrations of the relationship. Our stuff holds our history.

There is that collection of shot glasses representing the states you visited on that cross country trip as newlyweds. There is the writing desk his grandfather made, given to both of you as you celebrated a marital milestone. There is that crazy abstract painting you bought years ago which cost you more than you could afford, but simply could not live without. There is that first piece of “good” furniture you splurged on. … Read More... “Divorce – Tips on Dividing Your Stuff!”

Online Dating: Less Likely to Divorce If You Met Your Spouse Online?

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Early Study Reveals Online Dating Sites Among Best Meeting Place For Marital Bliss

online datingA few recently published studies have explored the new developments in the field of online dating and online dating sites.  These studies have shown that, more often than not, couples who meet on these sites are more likely to stay together and are generally happier than couples who meet offline.   Below we’re going to break these studies down, go into the numbers a bit, and then detail any of the critiques that may be relevant to the recent studies.

Harris Poll Study On Online Dating

One study published in the Journal of the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, involved contacting 20,000 recently married individuals.  Of these individuals, 35% met through an online dating website. (That’s 7,000!)  About 20 percent of online meetings happened through a social networking site such as Facebook or Twitter, and about 15 percent of those meetings happened through instant messaging, email or a chat room. The study also goes on to detail the percentage of marriages that fall apart by couples who met online, and the percentage of … Read More... “Online Dating: Less Likely to Divorce If You Met Your Spouse Online?”

College Expenses: The Impact Of Student Loan Debt On Your Child

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The ABC’s of College Loans – Plan How To Pay For College!

collegeCollege tuition has risen drastically in the past 15 years.  In 1980, a public university cost around $2,000 a year for just tuition.  The average in 2010 is at $8,085 and continuing to rise at a rate of almost 4-5% a year.  With these rising costs, one would be surprised to notice the drastic increase in college applicants.  Today, nearly 1 in 3 young adults have a bachelor’s degree, and nearly 70% of young adults have some sort of college experience.  This increase in college tuition and applicants has led to a large accumulation of student loans.   Below, we’re going to take a look at some hypothetical scenarios, and some recent developments in legislation that can affect the future of new students and can have significant impacts on the choices they make.

First, we will take a look at what FAFSA is, and what it can tell you.

  • FAFSA is the Free Application for Federal Student Aid.
  • FAFSA, like the acronym states, is FREE.  Never pay someone to complete your FAFSA for you.
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Are Child Raising Strategies Causing Conflict in Your Marriage?

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divorceKids cause conflicts in many marriages. How these issues get resolved has important consequences not only for your children but for the health of your marriage.

Disagreements about child rearing are not only inevitable but healthy. Discussion and debate can result in new insights and help you think about issues in a different way. Parents shouldn’t be reluctant to respectfully challenge their partner’s perspective. I like George Patton’s comment that, “if everyone is thinking alike, then somebody isn’t thinking.”

Parental conflicts are usually ones of strategy and, typically, are easy to resolve. In these situations, both parents agree on the goal but have very different paths to get there.

Amy’s parents rearranged their busy schedule to have dinner together almost every night. Four-year-old Amy was not always the most cooperative. Mom reported that several times a month Amy would cry during dinner for no apparent reason and crawl into her lap.

This was fine with Amy’s mom, who felt that her daughter simply needed some reassurance and security. Since this happened so infrequently, she just didn’t understand her husband’s overreaction. Dad felt that Amy was being manipulative … Read More... “Are Child Raising Strategies Causing Conflict in Your Marriage?”

Child Abuse and the Penalties for False Reporting

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False Allegations Of Child Abuse Can End Up In Civil, Criminal, Or Juvenile Courts

child abuseThe Jerry Sandusky criminal trial is over; the civil lawsuits are in active settlement mode. Undoubtedly, the entire country is more tuned into child abuse than it ever was. The National Conference of State Legislatures reports that about 105 bills on the reporting of suspected child abuse and neglect have been introduced in 2012 legislative sessions in 30 states and the District of Columbia. All of them include a penalty for failing to report suspected child abuse.

Oregon is one of the states which recently enacted child abuse reporting legislation. It added to the list of mandated reporters any employee or volunteer of an organization providing child-related services or activities, any employee of a higher education institution, and any coach, assistant coach or trainer of child athletes and any individual who provides guidance, instruction or training in youth development activities and youth camps.

Overlooked in the wake of this new awareness is the sad reality of false allegations of child abuse. There is no disputing that child abuse is a serious and … Read More... “Child Abuse and the Penalties for False Reporting”

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