If I’m speaking with a group of parents and I want to elicit a lively debate, I only need to say the following:
“Kids shouldn’t be your highest priority”.
As a youngster, I remember my dad telling me that “your mom always comes first,” but I really didn’t understand what he meant. It wasn’t until I spent many years working with kids and families that I realized that focusing your life around the needs and wants of your children was a serious mistake.
I’ve gotten some passionate feedback on this position from many parents. My favorite comment was from a mom of an infant. “I’ll tell that to my six-month-old the next time she wakes up in the middle of the night screaming for food.” One reader’s comments were more personal. “You must not have kids. Having children means sacrificing what you want for what they need.”
As a parent of three children, I understand that there are many times when taking care of our kids must come before anything else. Parenting involves lots of compromise and sacrifice.
However, always putting your children first is bad for them, bad for you, and bad for your relationship with your spouse.
It’s … Read More... “Why Kids Shouldn’t be Your Highest Priority”