FINANCIAL AFFIDAVIT – WHEN YOUR SPOUSE LIES

My Spouse “Lied” on His/Her Financial Affidavit

Lies and Misrepresentations on the Financial Affidavit in Ohio Divorce Actions

Financial Affidavit in dayton ohioIn Ohio, when a divorce proceeding is initiated, the Plaintiff files his or her Complaint for Divorce along with his/her Financial Affidavit and other pleadings. The Financial Affidavit, a “sworn” statement made under oath disclosing the incomes, assets, liabilities of the parties and the monthly expenses of the Affiant. The Financial Affidavit, also called the Affidavit of Income and Expenses, is a very important pleading, as it provides the filing party the opportunity to request (1) temporary custody of the child or children, (2) temporary child support, and/or (3) temporary spousal support during the pendency of the proceeding. This Financial Affidavit is also the pleading that is relied upon by the Court in determining the amount of temporary support (child and/or spousal support). Accordingly, if the Plaintiff “lies” or “misrepresents” the incomes or earnings of either party, the resultant Temporary Order of Support may be improper and unduly burdensome to the Obligor (person ordered to pay support).

The first step to avoid a “bad” Temporary Order is to make sure that your Financial Affidavit is through and accurate. On October 9, … Read More... “FINANCIAL AFFIDAVIT – WHEN YOUR SPOUSE LIES”

Thinking About Staying In Your Marriage For The Benefit Of The Kids?

thinking_staying_marriag_benefit_kids.jpgOver the years Gregory Ramey, Ph.D., who is a local child psychologist and vice president for outpatient services at the Children’s Medical Center of Dayton, has allowed us to republish many of his “Family Wise” articles from the Dayton Daily News.  He included an interesting question and answer in his column published in the Dayton Daily News on Sunday, August 28, 2011, that caught my attention.  Here is the question and Dr. Ramey’s answer:

Q:

My parents fight all the time.  I know they are only staying together two more years until I leave for college.  I hate being at home.  Should I tell them to get a divorce?

A:

Whether your parents stay married is their decision, not yours.  It’s inappropriate for you tell them to get a divorce, but you should discuss the impact that the family turmoil is having on you.  Don’t pick sides, offer advice or threaten them in any way.  Simply tell them how you feel living in a home with constant arguments.  Don’t forget to reassure them that you love them.

I shared Dr. Ramey’s advice with Donna F. Ferber, LPC, LADC, a licensed psychotherapist in Connecticut.  She, too, has kindly posted many articles … Read More... “Thinking About Staying In Your Marriage For The Benefit Of The Kids?”

Cohabitation: The Greatest Threat to Your Children’s Future

cohabitation_greatest_threat _childrens_future.jpgThink about this statement: “The rise of cohabitating households with children (where parents aren’t married, just living together) is the largest unrecognized threat to the quality and stability of children’s lives in today’s families.”  That’s pretty strong stuff, but it’s exactly what a new research study concludes.  While divorce has been the leading cause of the breakdown of the family and marriage for the last 40 years, the study shows that divorce is no longer the leading cause.  The study shows that cohabitation is now the greatest threat to the welfare of children in the United States!

The August 2011 study was sponsored by the Center on Children and Families at Brookings and is entitled “The Marginalization of Marriage in Middle America”. It was written jointly by two family scholars, one a conservative (W. Bradford Wilcox, director of the National Marriage Project) and one a liberal (Andrew J. Cherlin, professor at John Hopkins University).

The study found the following: in affluent neighborhoods where many college-educated Americans live, marriage is alive and well and divorce has declined to levels not seen since the “divorce revolution” of the 1960’s.  In contrast, marriage and family stability have both been in decline in the … Read More... “Cohabitation: The Greatest Threat to Your Children’s Future”

Who Gets to Keep the Engagement Ring?

who_gets_engagement_ring.jpgThe topic of this Family Blog Article focuses upon what happens to the engagement ring in the event of a “broken engagement”.  Most of the cases which are cited below provide the following information to the reader:  An engagement ring is a conditional gift given in contemplation of marriage; and, therefore, an engagement ring is not an absolute gift.

I will provide to the reader a synopsis of several cases in Ohio.  In all scenarios below, the Donor is the male person gifting the engagement ring and the Donee is the female person receiving the engagement ring.

Scenario #1:

Facts:  In August 1980, while still in college, Donor gave a diamond engagement ring to Donee.  Both parties then returned to their respective colleges.  The Donor was attending college in Canada and the Donee was attending college in Athens, Ohio.  In May 1981, the Donor returned to Ohio and demanded the return of the engagement ring.  The Donee refused to return the ring.  Donor then filed a Complaint against the Donee for the return of the engagement ring, or in the alternative, damages in the amount of $2,000.

The case cited the general principle of law:  The donor of an … Read More... “Who Gets to Keep the Engagement Ring?”

Can My Child Choose Which Parent to Live With?

child_parent_live_with.jpgOnce upon a time in Ohio the answer was “yes”. But not any longer. There is much misinformation on the internet about this subject. So, I thought that a review of the child custody laws over the years might be both helpful and interesting. There has been movement away over the years from allowing a child to choose in a divorce which parent to live with. These past “age of election” laws were seen as placing too much pressure on children.

Title VI, Chapter 3, Section 8033 from the Ohio Annotated General Code of 1910 allowed children as young as 10 years old to choose their custodial parent:

“…the court shall decide which one of them (parents) shall have the care, custody….except that, if such children be ten years of age or more, they must be allowed to choose which parent they prefer to live with, unless the parent so selected…be unfitted to take charge of such children…”

Chapter 3109 of the Ohio Revised Code was enacted on January 1, 1974, which states in part:

“(A) Upon hearing the testimony of either or both parents and in accordance with sections 3109.21 to 3109.36 of the Revised Code, the court Read More... “Can My Child Choose Which Parent to Live With?”

The Pendulum of Divorce Discovery

div_discovery.jpgNo one wants to get divorced. We don’t walk down the aisle thinking, “Aw, what the hell, if this doesn’t work, I can always get a divorce.” You probably thought more along the lines of, “I don’t care how many people get divorced. This is not going to happen to us!” Yet here you are. It is awful and it hurts more than you could have ever imagined.

Divorce is a process, with many issues, facets, twists, and turns. Your emotional well being, along with your financial and legal assets, will all be called into play. Where you live, how you live, how you define yourself, and what you want from life are all going to be examined, evaluated, and possibly changed. As the process unfolds, the most important thing you can do is learn to pace yourself. You will learn many new things about life, finances, the legal system, your spouse, and mostly yourself.

Right now, you may be focused on the fear and loss. But that will change. In one year you will feel better than you do now. In fact, you may feel better than you have ever felt in your life! How do we know this? … Read More... “The Pendulum of Divorce Discovery”

Did You Know that National Stepfamily Day is September 16th?

stepfamily.jpgThere’s a good chance that you yourself are part of a stepfamily.  If you’re not, you almost certainly have close friends or family members who are.  Statistics show that one in three Americans live in a stepfamily and that more than 50% of Americans will live in a stepfamily at some point in their lives.  A term that is now commonly used to describe a family that forms after divorce or re-marriage is a “blended” family.

With so many Americans being a part of a “blended” family these days, it should come as no surprise that there is actually a day to celebrate being in a stepfamily…National Stepfamily Day!  September 16 is the day that has been designated as the day to honor all the “Step Heroes” out there who choose every day to be parents to ALL the children in their lives.

In 1997, Christy Brogeld, who herself was a remarried mother and member of a blended family, decided that it was time to begin a campaign to bring stepfamily support and awareness to the nation’s attention.  That year she got 24 states to officially make the following proclamation:

“Whereas, National Stepfamily Day is enhanced by our strong commitment Read More... “Did You Know that National Stepfamily Day is September 16th?”

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